LOGICal eMOTIONs

The Peaks & Valleys

// November 19th, 2006 // Brain Dump

(post originally written as a draft back in September.. Finally finished it.)Â

I decided to drop a few words here about something I’ve noticed so far today: the peaks and valleys within the past 96h.

I don’t know about you, however, I have just come off one of the greatest weekends I have ever experienced. It was so completely mind-blowing that I don’t think that the impact of such a weekend will be realized for quite a bit. Sure, I remember a lot, I took a TON of notes during the three day conference I attended, and yet I know that I missed quite a bit of information.

What I find interesting is that after such an incredible weekend where you decide once and for all that the possibilities are endless and it’s time to make it happen, within the first 2h at work on Monday morning you are forced to deal with some ongoing negative ‘stuff’ and everything isn’t as bright and shining as it was a mere 12h ago…

WHAT HAPPENED?

Me.

Not to say that everything is as it was on the Friday and nothing has changed once Monday rolls around again, what I mean is that change takes time. New habits take time. Patience is required. Yes, that’s right, I actually stated that patience is required…. Those who know me have probably realized by now that patience is not one of my strongest characteristics. Although it has improved over the past couple years – the biggest patience lesson being Colleen heading off to Korea for 12 months, however, it is something that I continually work on to improve.

On the Saturday of the conference, Chris was able to stop by for a couple hours where at one point we got into the subject of ‘Gestation Period’. Now, for the record, neither one of us is having a kid, and neither are our wives. We were talking about gestation period in terms of the conception and development of an idea or plan. The period of change – from start to end. The bigger the change, the bigger the gestation period. Although some refer to this as ‘lag’ I think it should be noted that lag can be defined as ‘the act of slowing down or falling behind’ and if you are talking in terms of change, I don’t think ‘lag’ is the correct term to use.

The point is that change takes time. It takes a finite amount of time. The really fun part is that you have absolutely no idea (consciously) how long this supposed finite amount of time actual is! Where we struggle, and where we need to survive, is in the time between final decision and conscious realization of truth. It’s the time from when you decide once and for all that you are going to change/do/have/become X and the realization at some point in time after this decision that yes, X has changed/done/have/become.

Ok, so how long is this period? Well, from what I gather, the bulk of it is entirely up to you. But isn’t the bigger the change the longer the gestation period? Yes, and the bulk of the gestation period is you getting your brain around it and believing it. If you wait for physical proof before believing then that time gets stretched. The whole ‘I’ll believe it when I see it’ doesn’t truly apply – at all.

Without getting into the whole ‘You get what you think about’ realm of thinking and belief (heck, I’m still wrapping my brain around it), let me just state that you absolutely MUST believe before you will see. As much as I don’t like to write it, unfortunately and/or fortunately it is true.

You will soon notice that I have been terrible at remembering who said what, or where I read something, and this is going to be another one of those (I’m working on it – really I am!).

I read somewhere (I think…), that the best way to deal with the gestation period, the peaks, and the valleys, is consistent action. Consistent action towards whatever it is you are moving towards that requires a gestation period. The correct actions will shorten the period. I’m going out on a bit of a limb here, but I also believe that incorrect actions will ALSO shorten the period, provided that something is learned from the action when it is discovered that it was in fact, incorrect. NO action and incorrect action with nothing learned, will lengthen the gestation period significantly. At least with an incorrect action, plus having learned something along the way, you fall under the ‘Failing Forward’ category – with the key word being ‘Forward’.

Ok, so we get peaks, we get valleys, there is a gestation period, and it can all be smoothed out and shortened by consistent action…. I just know that there is going to be someone ready to yell out “AND YOU NEED TO BE EMOTIONAL ABOUT YOUR ACTION TOO!!!”…

T.

For more info about ‘gestation period’, I would go see Chris because he has been the one explaining it to me. It’s a Bucky Fuller thing and I haven’t gotten that far yet in my reading. He’s also got some great book recommends on Bucky too.

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